Vagina trauma is one of the leading cause of anorgasmia & low libido in women but there are ways to pull through and get the best of your sexual life.
Here’s some ways vaginal trauma can show up:
• Trouble connecting with your partner during sex
• Lack of interest in sex
• Numb feeling in your vagina or breasts
• Inability to experience an orgasm
• A feeling of something being ‘off’ down there yet tests all come back negative.
An estimated ½ of women have experienced some sort of sexual trauma. Our sensitive vaginas store these traumas.
The good news is you can heal vaginal pain yourself through Self Yoni-Massage.
• What is Self Yoni Massage Practice?
The first step in healing vaginal trauma is to relax and release your vaginal muscles. We do this through Self Yoni Massage.
The word ‘Yoni’ roughly translates from Sanskrit to “Sacred Space.”
Ideally your yoni muscles will be on the loose and soft side, not super hard and rigid.
Hard and rigid muscles need to be softened through massage BEFORE they can be strengthened through other means like a Jade Egg.
Without first softening the vaginal muscles Jade Egg practices can cause more trauma. Many women report the Jade Egg to be very uncomfortable and painful.
Self Yoni Massage has other benefits such as:
• More flexible pelvic floor muscles
• Softer tissue around the opening
• Become more in-tune with their taste, smell and feel
• Feel more sensitivity and pleasure inside
• Have lots more juice flowing
• Feel more connected to yourself
• Have stronger and more powerful orgasms
How to Practice Self Yoni Massage:
Step 1 – Set Sacred Space
This is a sacred practice. Before starting I recommend warming up with a hot bath or shower, creating a safe space you feel good in, turning off your phone, lighting candles if you like and play some soft music.
Create a sacred container for this work. Make sure I have soft fresh sheets. You have to go all out to ensure you feel safe and good in my environment.
Make sure you won’t be interrupted for at least 20 minutes, some women spend much longer. It’s up to you.
Have some coconut oil handy. Also have a journal and pen nearby.
Step 2 – Massage the Areas Surrounding Your Yoni
The first most important step is to slowly touch the areas surrounding your vagina – your inner thighs, pelvis, abdomen, all around your pubic bone and vulva area… before touching your yoni directly.
Take your time and move slowly as you massage all the areas around your vagina without touching your vagina directly yet.
Massage yourself with the gentle sweet care you’d massage your lover with.
You can also touch your breasts, legs, face. Whatever feels good. Trust your intuition and where your hands lead you. Listen to yourself.
Step 3 – Write Down Anything that Comes Up
Whatever comes up during this process write it down – you may get Images, thoughts, emotions, anything, write them down.
Note where it feels good and where you tense up. Note how easily your breath as you move up your thighs and all around your vulva.
Be compassionate with yourself too. If you’re not used to touching yourself this way know that it takes time to connect with these parts of ourselves. If you feel uncomfortable that’s ok, anger, that’s ok, sadness, fear. it’s all ok. Welcome all of it!
It’s important to go REALLY slow here. Take your time.
Step 4 – Move Toward Your Vaginal Opening
As you slowly move toward your vaginal opening and labia, massage them very gently. Touch your clitoris lightly.
If you get turned on – Welcome it! If you start to get wet this is great, it means you’re ready for your fingers to enter. If you aren’t becoming wet I recommend using coconut oil to lubricate your fingers before entering your vaginal opening.
The idea is to be super soft with yourself and not force anything. Coconut oil lubricant helps lessen friction.
Step 5 – Enter Your Yoni
After you’ve loosened the surrounding muscles use your index finger to place pressure against the vaginal opening.
You have to use your intuition here and trust where feels like it needs a release. Use the tip of your index finger to put pressure against the muscles just inside the opening. Press the muscles up against the bone and you will get a pinching feeling that feels like you hit a trigger point. hold on the point until it releases. You can also contract the muscles around your finger to sense where the pain points are.
It’s helpful to imagine white healing light coming from your fingers and cleansing away any stored trauma.
This is a self exploration and every woman is different. The way you do this massage will be unique to you. Part of the process is in getting to know what works for you specifically and what feels right for you.
There’s no right or wrong way to do this practice – the point is to get you in tune with your yoni and to consciously and mindfully release the muscles.
The first few times you would do this practice, you might feel intense pain as you worked out the muscles. Over time you start reaching deeper and deeper muscles and releasing more and more stored pain higher up your vaginal canal.
Sometimes after releasing the muscles you might have the urge to self pleasure and give yourself an orgasm. It can be a profound release after moving the pain from the muscles. It’s a fantastic way to heal.
TRUST yourself – do what feels good for your unique body.
After you’ve completed your massage take some time to sit in silence with yourself. This is very deep work!
I recommend doing this practice at least once a week. Take it slow, no need to rush. Only massage yourself to the level you’re comfortable with. If you feel uncomfortable you can stop anytime.
If you have intense emotions or memories come up seek support from a coach like me , mentor, doctor etc.
Keep following your notes in your journal as you progress and heal, and remember this is an ongoing practice – not an overnight cure.
If you have any questions please reach out to me!
I offer yoni massage therapy also so you can contact me +2348135065825.